Mind Reading

A major obstacle to improving relationships is the mind reading phenomenon.The ever present belief that we can know exactly what people are thinking blocks the path to understanding. This is especially true when there is past conflict and the residue of bruised feelings.The conclusions that are reach are treated as gospel truths and allow us to justify a host of behaviors.In our heads we often attribute negative motives to the other person, or persons and rarely entertain the possibility that what they are doing or thinking has any other meaning except that which has been judged in our minds. I have found that more than occasionally if I check out the perceptions instead of relying on mind reading the relationship improves.It is easier to keep others at a distance and to place in concrete my perceptions, but it is more rewarding to test the perceptions and allow that they may be misguided.

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