The end of life can often be filled with pain and suffering not only for the one who dies but also for loved ones. The loss is often so searing that it literally can be felt physically.I was reminded many years ago by Viktor Frankl  when Jack Murphy died that although it was a huge loss ,I should not forget his life. Concentrating only on his death was to miss the wonder of his life , and all the joy he brought to others.Grief is normal and there is no clear path for each individual ,but in the process at some point in time will come the realization that life has been enhanced and blessed by the one we loved.