One of the constants for most of us is worrying every day about a host of issues. The worry usually takes the form of “what if”. One by one the dreaded possibilities come to our consciousness and often syphon energy away from more positive pursuits. The worry is often unshaped and takes on a life of its own causing a significant amount of fear and stress. One way to handle it is to specify the worry so that you can get your hands around the concrete implications of the situation. I have found that adding the word “so” before the “what if” often allows me to realize that the situation ,if it occurs, is not so frightening as the unshaped vision that is somewhat out of control. Worrying is part of life, but defining the worry and its implications always leads to some real choices and alternatives.