No one has total control over every aspect of life, but there are ways that we can gain control through leverage. At the core of every significant opportunity to change positively leverage must be present. We can often find it in examining what are the visual messages we send to our brain. If we see ourselves through the prism of being stuck then we have no leverage. If the visual changes then the brain attracts opportunities to support the visual. In addition it helps if we examine the negative speech patterns that supported the former visual. In addition it is also worthwhile to examine and perhaps jettison some beliefs that have been carried too long. You are only stuck and mired in the past visual if you continue to accept the old visual and add on the negative words and beliefs.