Being raped is not just a one time horrible experience. It may impact a person so badly that they carry this with them forever. No apology or contrition on the part of the rapist will magically whisk away the pain and trauma. It is critical that no matter what the circumstances we remind ourselves that no one deserves to be raped. Compassion is a marvelous trait, but when it tilts in favor of the rapist rather than the person raped it is misguided. It is sad when anyone feels more pity for the perpetrator of the crime rather than the innocent victim.