Through the years I have encountered many charming people who held radically different views from mine. They were pleasant, cordial and warm in all of their interactions. It is important to be pleasant, but I will take substance over charm. You may smile when you tell me that the Church cannot change its’ stand on key issues like the roles of women and gays. I will respect your views, but I will never believe that these views are the concrete dogmas of the gospels, Tradition is valuable, but without the belief that spiritualty evolves it is a dusty approach to reality. Papal infallibility is merely a political evolution that is employed to contain diversity. Loving the church does not mean that I must place the legitimate concerns of the faithful solely in the hands of male clergy. I will draw my spiritual wisdom from the Beatitudes, and the spirit in which they were written.