A friend I know has had a series of difficult relationships over the bulk of her adult life.At one point because of a ongoing negative relationship with her parents she felt like she had failed at everything. There is no pat phrase that makes all that human hurt go away, but there are alternatives that can alter the pattern. No one has control over their birth and upbringing, but there are rational choices that can be made despite the pain and history. My friend deserves more than her share of caring, and this can happen by substituting new beliefs and operating at least part of the time more from her head than her emotions. Self worth fluctuates but worthiness is constant. We all deserve to experience the positive effects of being accepted and loved for who we are.